The Science of Casual Sex

Here is a wonderful book that I excerpt from:

Recent and increasingly sophisticated studies of the brain have presented startling discoveries to researchers on questions that have baffled science for generations. These advances have allowed us to understand so much more about why we do what we do.

The reason a book like this one is even possible is that new neuroscience techniques for studying the brain have proliferated over the past fifteen years. Relying on MRI technology and other scanning and imaging techniques, we simply know more about the brain now than we did twenty or thirty years ago.

Of course, we aren’t even close to knowing everything about the brain. In fact, the more we discover, the more we understand how complex the brain really is.’ Countless questions remain unanswered. But we do know enough to inform people in practical ways about a great deal that is happening in their heads and what to do with this new in-formation.

In previous chapters we have discussed much of this abundant new data about the brain. Our focus has been on the information that applies to connectedness, attachment, addiction, infatuation, love, sex, monogamy, marriage, and other issues related to our sexual behavior and our sexual health. The data indicates that sexuality and sexual behavior are a vital part of what makes us human—it is scientifically and behaviorally inaccurate to try to understand sexual activity as though it has no impact on the rest of what we are as human beings: our emotions, our health, our habits, and our nature. Sex is far too integral to who and what we are as persons to do this. We cannot separate the brain from the body. What our bodies do has a dramatic impact on our brains (and all that happens there, including emotions, and so on), and what we think in our brains will have a dramatic impact on our bodies and how we use them.


…the most current research shows that people who have been involved in premarital and/or extra-marital sex have significantly added to their chance of having problems and significantly increase their risk of never achieving their potential for health, hope, and happiness.

  • Joe S. McIlhaney, Jr., and Freda McKissic Bush, Hooked: New Science On How Casual Sex Is Affecting Our Children (Chicago, IL: Northfield Publishing, 2008), 133-134, 129.

(Above Video Description) This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Did you know today’s youth view sex as no more meaningful than a handshake? Did you know what they will often perform oral sex on a stranger they just met at a party but not kiss them as that’s too personal? That’s tame compared to a lot of what Lisa has heard in her 40+ years of experience of working with and raising kids.

Parenting should be Fun & Easy. Get all the hard work done when they’re little then relax & enjoy. Yes, there’s some tweaking during the teen years, but otherwise… easy.

My methods are based on 40+ years of experience of working with & raising kids. I use what works, not what people think “should” work. If the respect isn’t mutual, it’s useless.

Be the Fun Parent, not the Friend. What’s the difference? Parents discipline, Friends don’t.

I help parents find their Inner Leader so their children turn to them instead of their peers for guidance.